Wednesday, March 9, 2022

Zeke turns 9

 As I was trying to walk to my computer to sit down and type out this birthday blog, Zeke jumped in front of me singing "Feliz Navidad" while moving his eyebrows up and down and moving his hips in circles.  So there's that, guess I can end this now cause that's a pretty good summary.




In all reality I know that would leave so much out.   When I think of Zeke I always think of his adventurous spirit.   Which was really highlighted on our trip through the Badlands and to Glacier National Park this summer.   As mentioned in the previous post, there was a bit of a storm that rolled through.  It was intense.   While Tyler picked up Vi and ran her to the bathroom as she was screaming for her dear life, Zeke had been running around IN THE STORM trying to gather things that were blowing away and putting them away.  Gary sent him after Tyler and this kid ran through the storm to the shelter on his own to join his sister.   Once there, as I sat with my arms around his sister trying to comfort and calm her Zeke was literally walking in place trying to keep the giant bathroom door from swinging open in the wind.   He seemed to be having fun with it and it wasn't until everyone joined us in the bathrooms for shelter that I saw Gary putting his full weight against the door trying to keep it shut that I realized how much work Zeke had been doing.  This was after an entire day of walking along precarious ledges just to see how far he could go.   





He's still probably the most empathetic person in our family.  When he hears of hardships he wants to know how we can help.   He insists we dig for any cash we can find if he sees a homeless person.   He spent his own cash so he could get his sister a gift he knew she would love.  He was moved to tears hearing of something hard his cousin had to go through.   On the other hand, he sure antagonizes a lot, so maybe it all balances out.





Oh! Zeke learned to read!   And boy oh boy has this been a journey.   The most encouraging part is that he has ALWAYS loved books and stories.   At bedtime he is always asking me to tell him a story, or to look at a book.  It's been a looong time coming with lots of work but seeing him actually being able to pick up a book to read on his own is the most rewarding thing this year.   



I know I always throw in here something about Zeke's karate....but he just keeps really impressing me.   It's HARD work and seeing him continuously grow in dedication, focus, technical skills and strength is remarkable.   Within this year he has earned his purple belt and two stripes.   So he has learned multiples new strikes, kicks, blocks, counter attacks,  and self defense maneuverers, each with 5 or 6 steps. Currently he is learning "Shih Pa Lo Han Sho" aka, 18 hands and learning his kata for being able to earn his brown belt.   At these test he gets no clues or help, he has to be able to do each demonstration on his own.  For example, if he is demonstrating some of the self defense maneuvers he has to tell the other student where and how to strike then do all the combinations for that particular attack.     It really does blow me away. 



He's getting to a place where he is starting to vocalize his frustrations a little bit more.   There's been more sibling arguments and a few more yells of frustration, but honestly, I see this as a good thing.   He's learning you can't be happy go lucky all the time and how to handle and process difficult things.   Of course he prefers to have fun and joyful, but watching him learn how to take deep breaths when it's needed and keep working at things is so important.    



Overall, he remains one of the most content and happy kids I know.   My friend texted me yesterday and asked if Zeke was excited for the snow storm for his birthday.  I asked him and his response was, "It's ok, I didn't have plans to go outside.  I would rather it be a nice day but it's fine."  This is also a pretty decent summary of Zeke.  As long as he can build a fort, have some food and be able to play, he's pretty darn happy.   And we are all pretty darn lucky.







Thursday, February 17, 2022

Genevieve is 11!


    Oh we liked 10.  What a crazy age of growing, learning, taking responsibility, overcoming challenges and deep deep conversations.    To be fair, of course your child grows and learns every year, but some years seem to be a marked difference.   






Vi decided to join swim team this year, and the first day it was 60 degrees....I was wearing a jacket, she went swimming....back and forth, back and forth...I figured it would be our last day, but she loved it.  She got stronger, loved showing up every day and learning new strokes, it was so fun to watch her pursue something she loved. 




After the swim year, we went on a pretty big road trip.  We traveled over 2,800 miles, six people, one mini van and a 6 person pop up camper.  This girl who doesn't love loud noises, or when things get out of control, sudden surprises or changes in plans....went on a trip were many, many things went wrong... and while she may be minorly traumatized, she truly persevered.  After our first day of hiking all day at the Bad Lands, we were keeping an eye on the weather while cooking dinner when a storm rolled in like NOTHING we had experienced.   We didn't have a chance to sit with Vi as the straight line winds hit, to reassure her everything was ok; instead as the 80mph winds pounded our camper and thunder boomed around us, she did freak and scream, but WHILE she still zipped up the sides of the camper.   It became quickly apparent more adequate shelter was needed, so we moved to the campground bathrooms, with the wind pounding the door and rain flying in through the window.  Vi cried and yelled, (understandably so) "I DO NOT like this!  Vacations are supposed to be relaxing!  This is NOT relaxing!  I want to go HOME!"   When we emerged, our camper was soaked, and minorly damaged, almost every tent in the campground had been blown away, and a giant RV was knocked over on it's side and another pop up camper was ripped to shreds.   We had to check into a motel for a night while assessing the damage and trying to decide whether or not to continue on.   To be honest, I didn't think she'd be up for it, but after we all discussed it, she was more than willing to rise the occasion and continue our trek to Glacier National Park.  Where many more challenges faced us and overcame them all amazingly.






We have had substantial, well thought out conversations.  As parents we make many decisions that affect our kids.  This year Vi had a lot more questions regarding some of those decisions....why did we make that decision, or what led up to it?  She's old enough we were able to explain to her why we have made choices and what our hopes and goals are as her parents in our decision making.  She seemed to really absorb it all, engage in tough topics and have her own opinions on things.   It's been great.   Tyler and I both really value spending time in deep conversations and getting to the heart of motivations and thinking, and being able to engage with her about life things that happen has been really wonderful.   In the end, some of those hard decisions we have made have led to the best conversations that have been enlightening, meaningful and substantial to her growth and our relationship.





She has been excited to try and explore new things, new areas of creativity from crafting to story telling.  She's pushing herself more, and it's been fun to encourage her along as she sets big goals.   She wants to write stories, she wants to read 10,000 pages this school year (she's well over halfway there), she wanted to make her own Halloween costume, she wants to bike long distances.    She has always been somewhat of a goal setter (hence always saving money) but it's been a new, impressive level.   





   Overall, I'd say when we first hit double digits, as a parent I had an unfounded nervousness going into an age of unknown.  This year has been encouraging.  I'm so excited to watch her continue to grow into herself.   I hope she keeps her confidence and wonder, but mostly,  as usual, I continue to look forward to this wonderful young ladies journey with awe, admiration, and so much adoration.